Write Anyway

Courtesy of Short Sweet Love Poems

Some people go by the saying that honesty is the best policy. So, they would rather reveal everything to their partner upfront, including details of their past relationships.

On the other hand, others prefer to keep mum believing that there is little point in delving about the past as what is more important is the present and the future.

Would you want your partner to know how many people you have slept with in the past? Or how you have cheated on someone you once dated, for example? So, talking about your past relationships to your current partner can indeed be a difficult issue.

On to Love Q #11:

How frank should you be with your partner when it comes to your past relationships? How much of the details should you reveal?

This can be a bit tricky depending on the relationship and the questions asked. Obviously, it’s not exactly comfortable to have your partner asking, “What did you like best about sex with so and so?” Then again, I see no reason to lie about how many people you’ve slept with. (As long as someone isn’t asking you about it on the first date.)

Overall, I’m more on the side of honesty is best, but that’s in part because my partner is honest with me when I have questions. We also both know that we can trust each other not to hold our past against each other.

Then again, if you’re with someone who is going to hold your past against you, then maybe you shouldn’t be with that person in the first place.

But yes, if the questions don’t get too ridiculous and don’t make you uncomfortable, there’s no reason to lie.

What do you think?

(PS. What do you think about this tag? Is it an appropriate writing prompt for this site?)

I’m in a tag kind of mood today, so I am putting up this author tag I found at Reading is My Superpower. Answer in the comments section or put a link there to the answers on your blog if you’d like to play along.

* Answer the questions as you see fit. Although they’re all phrased to ask about a singular author, feel free to respond with multiples, or even a list.
* Where possible & convenient (you don’t have to go as crazy as I did!), include a link here or there to an author’s website, your review of one of their books, or a review that inspired you to try the author(s), so your readers can get more information on anyone that sounds interesting.
* Tag five people and drop by their blogs to let them know you tagged them, or open-tag your readers.
* It would be nice if you included a link back to your tagger.

1. Who’s your all-time favorite author, and why?

I don’t have an ‘all-time’ favourite author, I don’t think. I have a few I grew up reading and have enjoyed. I suppose I leave the distinction to Robin McKinley, though. Her book, The Blue Sword, gave me the confidence to write my own books. Plus, even now, I can pick up that book any time and still enjoy it. I have read it dozens of times.

2. Who was your first favorite author, and why? Do you still consider him or her among your favorites?

My first favourite author would have to be Anne McCaffrey. She caught me up in the world of Pern at a very young age and I still enjoy reading her books. She is definitely still one of my favourites.

3. Who’s the most recent addition to your list of favorite authors, and why?

I’m reading Eon by Greg Bear and I have a feeling he will go on the list of my favourites. But for the most recent author well and truly on my favourites list? Orson Scott Card wrote the last book I got truly excited about.

4. If someone asked you who your favorite authors were right now, which authors would first pop out of your mouth? Are there any you’d add on a moment of further reflection?

Orson Scott Card, Sandi Kahn Shelton, Robin McKinley, Sara Douglass, Tamora Pierce, Caridad Pineiro, Catherin Coultier, David (and Leigh) Eddings, Anne McCaffrey, Piers Anthony…

Need any more?